A month or so ago, I made plans to go visit a friend in her new city, about 4 hours away. Her company closed down, but they offered her a position at another branch, so she took it.
She and her husband have been trying to get pregnant, unsuccessfully, for at least two years. I made these plans before I found out I'm pregnant. I haven't told her. The weekend in question occurs right after my first OB appointment. The way I see it, I have a couple of options:
1. Go, hide the news, have a good time, and tell her later. This will make me feel rather guilty, and may drive me batty coming off the heels of a hopefully exciting, heartbeat-hearing ultrasound.
2. Tell her now (though via what means? what do I say?), and let her decide if she's up for the visit. This makes my heart hurt, but it's probably the most fair.
I am not sure what to do, and I am not sure what to say. Does anyone have any insight or advice for me?